The secret to a harmonious relationship is simple: a woman should be a match for her man

Many have wondered: what is the secret to a harmonious relationship? We are used to hearing certain phrases like “a man must match up to a woman,” as in if you want a beautiful woman, you need to earn it. However, few people consider that for a harmonious relationship, the woman should also match up to her man.

But what does it mean to “match up”? What is implied by this concept? And how can I tell if the woman I met a couple of weeks ago matches me enough that we can move on to the next stages of our relationship? This concept is simple, yet it has its nuances, and understanding its essence can be helped by several examples, from which we can derive criteria for evaluation:

Similar Childhood

One might think, what difference does it make how a woman’s childhood was? This is important because differences at this stage of life can lead to serious problems in future relationships.

For example, a man might have grown up in a complete family with traditional values, where the father was the head of the household and the mother stood by his side. Meanwhile, a woman might have grown up in a different family, where the mother initially exerted psychological pressure on the father, then divorced him, and for years brought various men into the home.

Most likely, in adulthood, the man and the woman will have completely different perceptions of a healthy relationship, and this incompatibility will inevitably surface.

Values

For harmonious relationships, it is important to have compatibility in views and values. If a man values family while a woman values a series of casual relationships and adds to the list of her exes, it’s unlikely that they will form a healthy union.

Goals and Aspirations

The vision of the future path plays a significant role. It often happens that a woman strives for her family to have a high income (essentially, she seeks wealth through the man), while the man doesn’t want to constantly “move mountains”. He doesn’t need a director’s position or his own business; he simply enjoys doing the job he has now.

Understanding Mutual Contribution

This might sound a bit complex, but let me explain. For harmonious relationships, both partners must contribute equally to their development.

For instance, the man earns a lot and supports the family, while the woman takes care of the household and keeps the home cozy. Each contributes equally, but sometimes the woman doesn’t see this joint contribution as truly mutual. She might believe that the man is obligated to earn money, take care of the household, and shoulder various responsibilities, while she doesn’t have to do anything because she is “the beloved one, not a cook.”

And these are just a few examples. There are also past relationship experiences, views on life, appearance, and plans for the future…

All of this is what forms that very compatibility.

If we put all the above-mentioned thoughts together, the situation where a man thoughtlessly offers a relationship to anyone, as long as she’s attractive, leads to compatibility issues, which manifest months or even years after the relationship begins.

It’s easy to blame the wrong women here, but relationships are a voluntary matter, which means that the man agreed to a relationship with this ‘wrong’ woman. He didn’t check how well she matched him, and that’s how couples are formed where the man dreamed of a woman without a complicated past, without tattoos and bad habits, with certain views on life, but ended up with the opposite.

If a man realizes that the woman he is interacting with is not compatible with him (even in one area, let alone two, three, or more), then there is no point in considering her for a serious relationship. For a couple of casual dates, maybe, but otherwise, any attempt at a serious relationship will fail.

This content reflects the author’s personal opinion.